Earlier this year, the N.Y. Times ran a funny, sweet essay entitled Our Kinder, Gentler, Nobody-Moves-Out Divorce: When the end of a marriage means living on separate floors of the same house. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/14/style/modern-love-kinder-gentler-divorce.html. It got me thinking about the range of post-divorce relationships I’ve seen (including my own). There’s really no template for […]
You are not alone
Every year, thousands of couples decide it’s time to divorce. This decision is difficult, painful, and heart-wrenching. And…what follows can be peaceful, respectful, private, and economical.
Would you like to…
- protect your children during the divorce process?
- meet the needs of all family members simultaneously with the help of an experienced attorney?
- avoid expensive and destructive litigation?
- preserve family connections during and after a difficult divorce?
Mediators and Collaborative divorce attorneys are experienced and specially trained conflict resolution specialists. We focus on the family’s strengths, not each other’s weaknesses, to help you access your best selves during a divorce. Depending on your situation, other neutral specialists, such as a communication coach, a child expert, or a financial analyst are available to meed the unique needs of your family.
Blogs from Jim O’Connor
I specialize in helping folks have peaceful divorces, while serving as an advising lawyer, mediator, or Collaborative attorney. I no longer participate in any family law litigation. A common question I get from prospective clients facing possible divorce goes something like this: “What is the Oregon law on the topic of _________ ?”. My typical response […]
I recently wrote a primer on “Negotiating with Your Partner: Look Ahead, Not Backwards” for Bridges Collaborative Divorce Solutions. This article outlines concrete steps to take towards a different future and highlights how to effectively negotiate. Read about this solution-oriented approach here.