I hear and see so many interesting, touching stories with my clients that I want to share some of them (while protecting privacy, of course) that might help others going through a hard time. Right now, I’m representing the wife in a Collaborative case with a very close colleague representing the husband. While each spouse has his or her own attorney, we all sign a contract that neither attorney … [Read more...] about There’s Only One Side in a Collaborative Divorce
Many people don’t realize that about 90%+ family law cases are settled before a Judge has to decide the family’s issues. But, in the “bad-old” days, and today in traditional divorce cases, the amount of stress, delay and expense getting to that settlement makes things way, way too hard on all family members, especially the children. When couples are able to work together in mediation, or using … [Read more...] about Divorce isn’t necessarily a legal problem.
At the time of a breakup, most of us really can use some empathy. But, what exactly is it? Here’s a short video explaining this concept. With the right help, we can sometimes find the empathy we need to heal, and even offer it to our partner. When we can do this, it really can help us leave some of the old, bad stuff behind as we work together to peacefully … [Read more...] about The Power of Empathy
For young kiddos who are learning to tie their shoes and clean up their toys, talking about divorce can be a scary monster of a conversation. It’s tough for all involved, and you are not alone. Stats show that half of all American children will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage. Of these, close to half will also see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage. * As a culture, we’ve … [Read more...] about How Can I Talk To My Kids About Divorce?
Understanding the specific differences between typical litigious family law (your standard courtroom divorce or back room settlement) and Collaborative Divorce requires a paradigm shift. The name seems obvious, yet people don't realize that there is formal training and protocols that are involved. The most crucial piece is the disqualification of going to court... because if that’s on the table … [Read more...] about Comparison of Collaborative Divorce to Litigation
I understand the desire to find the most affordable divorce process. I’ve been there. However, it’s really about much, much more than that. It’s about feeling like you're in a team, in a partnership with your lawyer. I never recommend collaborative divorce because it’s much more affordable than litigation, although in my experience it always is. Instead, I always emphasize how much better it is … [Read more...] about How Much Does Divorce Cost?
In one of the most visible divorces in pop culture, Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren, maturely respect the needs of their children through collaborative divorce, even while in the spotlight. More often than not, traditional divorces are nasty, destructive and entrenched in deceptive legal maneuvering. For children, they are traumatic and lasting. Possibly the most appreciated outcome of … [Read more...] about How Do I Help My Kids Through Divorce?
If you’re in search of an amicable divorce process, I think collaborative divorce is your best bet. I’ll be frank; an amicable divorce doesn’t mean an easy divorce. However, collaborative divorce will foster a more mature and constructive approach to splitting up a family. Instead of engaging in the typical two-sided warfare associated with the divorce process, we collectively redefine the … [Read more...] about What is Collaborative Divorce?