If you are a fan of NPR’s This American Life, maybe you’ve already heard this short clip. Ira Glass interviews Barry Berkman (a Collaborative lawyer from New York) about why he stopped doing adversarial divorces, and the financial and emotional advantages his clients receive from choosing to separate peacefully. http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/339/break-up?act=3#play … [Read more...] about Don’t Just Take My Word for It !
One of the least romantic things that can happen in the lead-up to a marriage is to have one of the partners request that the other sign a pre-nuptial agreement, right? We can all imagine the following scenario: a wealthy partner wants to make sure that the less-well-off partner doesn’t get his (or her) pre-marital assets if the couple ends up divorcing. Just talking about a possible divorce … [Read more...] about Pre—Nuptial Agreements Don’t Have to be “ICKY” !
The time will comewhen, with elationyou will greet yourself arrivingat your own door, in your own mirrorand each will smile at the other's welcome, and say, sit here. Eat.You will love again the stranger who was your self.Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heartto itself, to the stranger who has loved you all your life, whom you ignoredfor another, who knows you by heart.Take down the … [Read more...] about Love After Love
I hear and see so many interesting, touching stories with my clients that I want to share some of them (while protecting privacy, of course) that might help others going through a hard time. Right now, I’m representing the wife in a Collaborative case with a very close colleague representing the husband. While each spouse has his or her own attorney, we all sign a contract that neither attorney … [Read more...] about There’s Only One Side in a Collaborative Divorce
Many people don’t realize that about 90%+ family law cases are settled before a Judge has to decide the family’s issues. But, in the “bad-old” days, and today in traditional divorce cases, the amount of stress, delay and expense getting to that settlement makes things way, way too hard on all family members, especially the children. When couples are able to work together in mediation, or using … [Read more...] about Divorce isn’t necessarily a legal problem.
At the time of a breakup, most of us really can use some empathy. But, what exactly is it? Here’s a short video explaining this concept. With the right help, we can sometimes find the empathy we need to heal, and even offer it to our partner. When we can do this, it really can help us leave some of the old, bad stuff behind as we work together to peacefully … [Read more...] about The Power of Empathy
For young kiddos who are learning to tie their shoes and clean up their toys, talking about divorce can be a scary monster of a conversation. It’s tough for all involved, and you are not alone. Stats show that half of all American children will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage. Of these, close to half will also see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage. * As a culture, we’ve … [Read more...] about How Can I Talk To My Kids About Divorce?
Understanding the specific differences between typical litigious family law (your standard courtroom divorce or back room settlement) and Collaborative Divorce requires a paradigm shift. The name seems obvious, yet people don't realize that there is formal training and protocols that are involved. The most crucial piece is the disqualification of going to court... because if that’s on the table … [Read more...] about Comparison of Collaborative Divorce to Litigation