“The world is violent and mercurial — it will have its way with you. We are saved only by love — love for each other and the love that we pour into the art we feel compelled to share: being a parent; being a writer; being a painter; being a friend. We live in a perpetually burning building, and what we must save from it, all the time, is love.” Tennessee Williams … [Read more...] about Thoughts after the recent election (or after a separation):
By Mark Weiss (10/2/16) blog posted on Facebook A recurring debate is whether better outcomes are obtained by tough negotiators who push for what they want at the expense of others, or by compassionate negotiators who focus on what’s important to others. This debate about what constitutes better negotiation features prominently in the current U.S. Presidential election. It also occurs in claims … [Read more...] about The Different Negotiation Styles in Divorce
by Zach Brittle,Couples Therapist, Author, Founder of forBetter.us(originally published in Huffington Post) Lately, I’ve had a handful of clients come into my office grappling with the idea of whether or not to divorce. It’s a fraught decision, loaded with complicated choices. One thing I hear over and over is “we don’t want to divorce because of the kids”. It’s a noble sentiment, but flawed. … [Read more...] about An Open Letter To The Couple Who Are Staying Together For The Kids
"Happy families are not all alike." What follows is a link to a column from the New York Times by Lara Bazelon about her family's five day vacation together, post divorce. A potent reminder that it is possible to create an atmosphere of joy and love, even after a marriage ends. http://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/27/fashion/from-divorce-a-fractured-beauty.html?_r=1 … [Read more...] about From Divorce, A Fractured Beauty
You do not have to be good.You do not have to walk on your kneesFor a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.You only have to let the soft animal of your bodylove what it loves.Tell me about your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.Meanwhile the world goes on.Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rainare moving across the landscapes,over the prairies and the deep trees,the … [Read more...] about Wild Geese
The divorce process is one of discussions leading to decisions. The discussions and decisions are best if they are jointly held and made. How difficult this is depends on who the two people are. How much and what kind of support do you two need to have the discussions? to embrace a perspective in those discussions that will result in decisions you can both live and continue to work with? The … [Read more...] about I don’t want to be your shepherd.