The divorce process is one of discussions leading to decisions. The discussions and decisions are best if they are jointly held and made. How difficult this is depends on who the two people are. How much and what kind of support do you two need to have the discussions? to embrace a perspective in those discussions that will result in decisions you can both live and continue to work with? The … [Read more...] about I don’t want to be your shepherd.
Regarding the wellbeing of kids with divorced parents, the debate over what kind of custody arrangement is best rages on. But a new study, published Monday in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, suggests that children fare better when they spend time living with both of their parents. That goes against some current thinking that kids in shared-custody situations are exposed to … [Read more...] about This Divorce Arrangement Stresses Kids Out Most
One day you finally knewwhat you had to do, and began,though the voices around youkept shoutingtheir bad advice--though the whole housebegan to trembleand you felt the old tugat your ankles."Mend my life!"each voice cried.But you didn't stop.You knew what you had to do,though the wind priedwith its stiff fingersat the very foundations,though their melancholywas terrible.It was already lateenough, … [Read more...] about The Journey
When the going gets tough may I resist my first impulse to wade in, fix, explain, resolve, and restore. May I sit down instead. When the going gets tough may I be quiet. May I steep for a while in stillness. When the going gets tough may I have faith that things are unfolding as they are meant to. May I remember that my life is what it is, not what I ask for. May I find the strength to bear … [Read more...] about When the Going Gets Tough…
This is a piece that ran last month in the New York Times; a small reflection of the transition and emotions that attend the journey back to single life. To a Friend, on His Divorce … [Read more...] about To a Friend, on His Divorce
What follows is an article from Oregon Live expanding further on the streamlined and collaborative, family-oriented divorce process, WeVorce, which I am implementing in my practice this spring. I am happy to be able to offer such a rich and cost-effective process to my clients. One note of caveat related to the last paragraph of the article: in utilizing WeVorce, families also remain very much … [Read more...] about WeVorce aims to make divorce less messy, more family-friendly
Anyone who has been through a divorce knows how hard it is to recover and move on. Here, a professional counselor offers helpful tips that may make it easier.http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/marriage/how-to-move-on-from-divorce/ss-AA3gGGK … [Read more...] about How to Move on from Divorce
What follows is a recent story from USA Today about a web-based collaborative family law offering that I will be integrating into my practice this spring, entitled Wevorce. Wevorce helps couples divorce amicably with the help of web-based technology and a community of trained attorneys, counselors and other experts. As the article describes, "Wevorce eliminates some of the costly drama … [Read more...] about WeVorce Aims to Bring Civility to Divorce