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When the going gets tough may I resist my first impulse to wade in, fix, explain, resolve, and restore.  May I sit down instead. When the going gets tough may I be quiet.  May I steep for a while in stillness. When the going gets tough may I have faith that things are unfolding as they are meant to.  May I remember that my life is what it is, not what I ask for.  May I … [Read more...] about When the Going Gets Tough…

This is a piece that ran last month in the New York Times; a small reflection of the transition and emotions that attend the journey back to single life. To a Friend, on His Divorce … [Read more...] about To a Friend, on His Divorce

What follows is an article from Oregon Live expanding further on the streamlined and collaborative, family-oriented divorce process, WeVorce, which I am implementing in my practice this spring.  I am happy to be able to offer such a rich and cost-effective process to my clients.  One note of caveat related to the last paragraph of the article: in utilizing WeVorce, families also remain … [Read more...] about WeVorce aims to make divorce less messy, more family-friendly

Anyone who has been through a divorce knows how hard it is to recover and move on.  Here, a professional counselor offers helpful tips that may make it easier.https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/marriage/how-to-move-on-from-divorce/ss-AA3gGGK … [Read more...] about How to Move on from Divorce

What follows is a recent story from USA Today about a web-based collaborative family law offering that I will be integrating into my practice this spring, entitled WeVorce.  WeVorce helps couples divorce amicably with the help of web-based technology and a community of trained attorneys, counselors and other experts.  As the article describes, "WeVorce eliminates some of the costly drama … [Read more...] about WeVorce Aims to Bring Civility to Divorce

Almost half the children in the U.S.  will experience their parent’s separation before the age of 16 — more than any other country in the western world. SPLIT is a deeply personal film that explores the effects of divorce on children.  The film features twelve children aged 6-12, who explore the often frightening and always life altering separation of their parents. SPLIT gives us … [Read more...] about Split – A Film for Kids of Divorce (and their Parents)

When you’re a child of divorce, holiday celebrations can come with a lot of baggage. By Aisha Harris Aisha Harris addressed a common Thanksgiving conundrum: holiday meals are built around togetherness, but what if your family is divided?  The original essay is reprinted below: In the last nine years, I’ve shared only one Thanksgiving meal with both of my parents, who divorced during … [Read more...] about Giving Thanks After a Split

1: It’s a competition. Almost always in divorce, parents either win together or lose together.  Parents’ common interests remain common after separation. 2: We have a legal problem. Nearly all issues in divorce are Mom-and-Dad issues.  Parents and kids are badly hurt when parent issues are miscast as legal ones. 3: We have a custody dispute. Almost no couples have a … [Read more...] about The 9 Myths of Divorce and Separation